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Growing Together

The book Growing Together was written by a mother-daughter team: Oralee Stiles and Aliza Bulow. It is a guide for family and friends of newly observant Jews, and is intended for the families of both baal teshuvas and converts. It is full of explanations, advice and stories to help both the family member and the newly observant Jew understand each other better and have a warm and respectful relationship.

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From inside the book (p. 6) :

Is This Book For You?

Someone you know or love may have put this book in your hands.

You may have picked it off the shelf in a bookstore or in a friend’s home.

Ø  Is it because your grown child or grandchildren have decided to become observant Jews and you wonder if they will grow apart from you?

Ø  Is it because you have become more religious and want help growing together with your family?

Ø Is it because you have friends who are becoming more religious? 

Ø  Is it because your child is converting to Judaism?

Ø  Is it because your child has married an observant Jew?

Ø  Is it because you are willing to grow and be open to other life styles?

This book will give you ideas and information about all these situations. You may be surprised and entertained. You may be inspired. You may have more compassion for your own journey. You may grow along with your family and friends.

Our idea of “growing together” is rooted in both our gardens and our hearts. In a garden, plants can be very different from one another and yet they all grow. We expect the variety of plants to respond to the soil, water, and sun as individuals and yet we hope they all grow to the best of their ability. As each plant in the garden flourishes, growing on their own but next to each other, we could say they are "growing together". In our hearts, we grow together when we love and respect each other. And when that love and respect increases, we are surely "growing together".  

This book supports the mutual growth of families and friends. When we make room in our lives to grow into new ways of understanding and acceptance, when we can be open to the impact of another’s path on our own, we can enrich not only our own growth, but the strength of the relationships we have with those we love and cherish.

This book is a response to many people who have asked for help in understanding and relating to religious Jewish relatives and friends, especially the newly religious or observant, baal teshuvas, and to converts, gerim, to Judaism.  It is also a response to the baal teshuvas and converts who want some guidance in getting along with their families and friends.

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This site is dedicated to the memory of Daniel Moshe a"h ben Ephraim Adam HaLevi Bulow
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  • Home
    • Upcoming and Current Classes
    • Meet Aliza
  • Meet Aliza
    • Video Introduction: Becoming What I Want to Be
    • Aliza Bulow-Jewish Press Article 2016
    • Yated Article: The Adopted Princess- The Story of Aliza Bulow, A Jew by Choice
    • Family First Article: From Puritan to Pure Jew The Journey of Aliza Bulow
    • My Job: Honey Bee Kiruv (Horizon Magazine)
    • Videos >
      • Becoming What I Want to Be
      • Keshet Honoree Video
      • Gitty Bulow's video
      • Shema Video
  • Audio
    • Talks from Travels
    • The Jewish University: History
    • The Jewish University: Foundations
    • Relationships and Growth >
      • A Marriage Made in Heaven
      • Strengthening Relationships
      • Parenting
      • Self Esteem
      • Bridging the [Mussar] Gap
      • Roadmap to the Real You
    • Jewish Philosophy >
      • Derech Hashem Phone Series
      • Tomer Devorah
      • Rambam's Thirteen Principles of Faith
      • Philosophy Discussion Group
      • Secret Life of Davening
    • Sefer HaChinuch
    • Holidays >
      • Passover/Pesach
      • Shavuot
      • Three Weeks and Tisha B'Av
      • Elul and High Holy Days >
        • Elul and Rosh Hashana
        • Mexico Elul 2011
        • Falling In Love With G-d
        • Ten Days of Repentance and Yom Kippur
        • Tomer Devorah
      • Chanukah
      • Purim
    • Elisheva and Yehoshua Hoffman
    • For Mikarvot >
      • Derech Hashem Phone Series
      • WIK and Campus Conference 2013 >
        • Why Women Can't Be Rabbis
      • WIK Conference 2010 and 2011
      • Bayla's Sheloshim Shiur
      • Shalom Bayit in Hebrew
  • Writings
    • Aliza's Stories >
      • Harry's Magic
      • Am I for Real? A Shema Story
      • Kindness in Kansas
      • Welling Up
      • When Chocolate Isn't Enough
      • Elisheva and Yehoshua Hoffman
      • My First Partner in Torah
      • Yated Article: The Adopted Princess- The Story of Aliza Bulow, A Jew by Choice
      • Honey Bee Kiruv
    • Holidays and Lifecycle >
      • Why Round Challah
      • Connecting Through Fasting
      • Reincarnation in the Book of Ruth
      • Orthodox Jewish Weddings
      • Developmental Stages of the Baal Teshuva >
        • Las fases de la recién Observador
    • Spirituality >
      • Four Spiritual Coping Strategies
      • The DaVinci Mode: Seeking the Sacred Feminine
      • Growing Together: A Book for Parents of the Newly Observant
      • The Mitzvah of Smiling
    • Doni Bulow Memorial Page
  • Public Speaking
    • Speaking Topics
    • Sample Talks
    • Venues at Which I Have Spoken
    • Short bios and pics
    • Contact
  • Resources
    • Hire Aliza
    • Growing Together: A Book for Parents of the Newly Observant
    • Yinglish: A Lexicon of Judeo-English
    • Books I've Mentioned >
      • The Falconi Effect
    • Poems I like >
      • Sails and Souls
      • Which?
      • Washington's Thanksgiving Proclamation
    • Links to Other Torah Sites
  • Contact