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Doni Bulow a"h

Grandpa Mark Beach on Doni

6/23/2013

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          Doni was very generous and patient with his grandparents. He used his growing computer knowledge to help us make decisions about what to buy and how best to use it during visits and phone calls to New York to his father’s parents and to Oregon to his mother’s parents. He was our computer guru. His enthusiasm for new technologies was contagious. We also served as additional “labs” for his self-directed computer education which started on all the computers at home in the Bulow household.

He stood on his father’s shoulders. Ephraim is well versed and adept with computers and served his law firm with his computer expertise. Doni’s innate interest in “how things work” led him to take apart and examine any electronic device the family hadn’t used in the previous few hours. He was not intimidated by complexity. Rebuilding them was another challenge he tackled in his self education. “Why are these four screws still on the table?”

Grandpa Mark Beach has these memories: “When Doni was 15 and in Oregon for a few days in the summer. I took him to a huge warehouse full of electronic waste – boxes and bins stuffed with keyboards, mice, hard drives and monitors. He couldn’t believe all those treasures were really waste, especially the processors. He’d look in a bin, identify the good ones and beg the manager for an arm load. We were astounded at his skills, just as the geeks later that day at the computer repair shop were astounded. He could have had a summer job on the spot.

            “During the last six months of his life, we spent hours on the phone assessing my digital needs and specifying new systems and techniques to meet them. In addition to appreciating Doni’s help, I always felt amazed at his instincts about, for lack of a better term, customer service. Yes he often got ahead of my technical understanding. But mostly he asked the right questions about what I expected from computers and software. Occasionally I got ahead of him regarding the future of digital capacities. He’d have new insights ready for our next phone call.  This was especially true regarding solid state printing, a field that we both found fascinating because of its investment opportunities.

               “Uri’s eulogy for Doni fit my own outlook. Our bodies die, but the fact that we once lived makes us immortal. Doni helped me find my way to more rewarding capacity in my relations with my community, so I will think of him every time I use techniques he helped me develop. I won’t be able to look at my computer screen or organize my files in the cloud without hearing his voice. And long after I’m gone, my community will benefit from Doni’s life because of how he helped me prepare what I collected and left behind.”


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Denise Rootenberg
7/8/2013 05:55:06 am

This is such a "coincidence" if one believes in that term. I just read the article about Doni on Aish's website and was deeply moved by it. I was "surfing" about outreach and landed on this page. We couldn't believe that Aliza could write such a balanced account only six weeks after losing him. The love you and your family had for him is so evident, as is the acceptance of him as he was. (We have a bipolar family member too.) We wish you only simchas.

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Lori B link
3/4/2021 10:54:07 am

Thankks for writing this

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    • Video Introduction: Becoming What I Want to Be
    • Aliza Bulow-Jewish Press Article 2016
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    • Family First Article: From Puritan to Pure Jew The Journey of Aliza Bulow
    • My Job: Honey Bee Kiruv (Horizon Magazine)
    • Videos >
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      • Keshet Honoree Video
      • Gitty Bulow's video
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    • The Jewish University: Foundations
    • Relationships and Growth >
      • A Marriage Made in Heaven
      • Strengthening Relationships
      • Parenting
      • Self Esteem
      • Bridging the [Mussar] Gap
      • Roadmap to the Real You
    • Jewish Philosophy >
      • Derech Hashem Phone Series
      • Tomer Devorah
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      • Philosophy Discussion Group
      • Secret Life of Davening
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      • Shavuot
      • Three Weeks and Tisha B'Av
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        • Mexico Elul 2011
        • Falling In Love With G-d
        • Ten Days of Repentance and Yom Kippur
        • Tomer Devorah
      • Chanukah
      • Purim
    • Elisheva and Yehoshua Hoffman
    • For Mikarvot >
      • Derech Hashem Phone Series
      • WIK and Campus Conference 2013 >
        • Why Women Can't Be Rabbis
      • WIK Conference 2010 and 2011
      • Bayla's Sheloshim Shiur
      • Shalom Bayit in Hebrew
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    • Aliza's Stories >
      • Harry's Magic
      • Am I for Real? A Shema Story
      • Kindness in Kansas
      • Welling Up
      • When Chocolate Isn't Enough
      • Elisheva and Yehoshua Hoffman
      • My First Partner in Torah
      • Yated Article: The Adopted Princess- The Story of Aliza Bulow, A Jew by Choice
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      • Four Spiritual Coping Strategies
      • The DaVinci Mode: Seeking the Sacred Feminine
      • Growing Together: A Book for Parents of the Newly Observant
      • The Mitzvah of Smiling
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